Personality Development, Free Course 2, Lesson 3

Coaching for Success
Terence Traut

(The material given here, about training groups, applies to self-training also and is thus given here as part of this course)

Coaching is perhaps the most effective method of increasing performance available to managers, team leaders, and colleagues. This article defines coaching and outlines a process for effective coaching.

Coaching Defined: Coaching is perhaps the most effective method of increasing performance available to managers, team leaders, and colleagues.

If you wish to improve the skills of your employees, you must plan to observe them and provide them with feedback. If you’re like most supervisors or managers, you have limited time and are looking for employees to become proficient – and independent – faster.

Entelechy’s Coaching Model is designed to help you do just that! The Coaching Model is appropriate for developing the skills of employees if the employee is willing to improve. Coaching should not be used as a softer, gentler version of corrective action; if a performance problem occurs, you will want to use the Problem Solving model.

The Coaching Model is based on several important principles:

1. There are two primary goals to coaching:

* To improve performance.

* To help employees gain the ability to self-assess.

2. It is important that the coaching sessions follow a predictable process. This will help the coachees feel more comfortable and relaxed, which will help to ensure they actively participate in these sessions. It is for this reason that we suggest that you share the coaching model with your employees prior to coaching.

3. Coaching is a planned development process and should not be a surprise.

4. The way you open the conversation sets the tone for what will follow.

5. After we open the conversation using our initial probe, we discuss positives first and areas for improvement last. Beginning with positives first is motivational and accomplishes the following:

* The goal is to have employees increase their performance. If they are not in a positive frame of mind, they will not be open to this change.

* Reinforces good behavior and ease into the coaching session.

* Builds self-esteem.

6. Ending the coaching session with a discussion of areas for development ensures that they are focusing on those areas.

7. Always give the coachee a chance to self-assess before you offer your insights. Encouraging self-assessment is positive for several reasons:

* It encourages improvement even when you are not coaching.

* It allows you to determine why the employee may not be performing as desired; they may not know that they’re doing something incorrectly.

* It builds self-esteem.

* It increases the chances that behavior will change.

8. Reinforce correct self-assessment.

9. Defer or redirect inappropriate or incorrect self-assessment.

10. We focus coaching on only two strengths and two areas for development. Limiting the discussion is important and accomplishes the following:

* Increases the coachee’s ability to reach proficiency.

* Focuses on the most important issues.

* Other issues can be addressed after some progress has been made on the most important issues first.

11. If an employee is not identifying areas that you identified (or has identified them incorrectly), use increasingly specific questions to allow the employee to self-assess if possible. This allows you to determine if the employee doesn’t know what’s expected, doesn’t have the skill, or simply chooses not to demonstrate the skill.

The Coaching Model at Work: Now let’s turn our attention to Entelechy’s Coaching Model in practice.

Step 1: Open the Conversation

The coach opens the conversation with a general question; this helps the coach get a sense for the accuracy of the coachee’s self-assessment. If the coachee responds with, “that was the best call ever” and you thought that the call was poor, you know that you’ll have to adjust your coaching conversation.

Step 2: Probe for What Went Well

The coach asks the coachee what went particularly well and listens for the responses. By identifying what went well first, a positive tone for the coaching session is set. We want to make sure that the coachee continues doing these things. This also forces the coachee — NOT THE COACH — to identify superior performance.

Step 2a: Redirect or Defer

Sometimes the coachee will bring up a negative when you’re discussing positives. You will want to defer that discussion until later in the coaching conversation by saying, “I’d like to talk about that more later. What else went particularly well?”

Other times, the coachee will claim something as a positive that — in your opinion — was an area that needs development. You will want to redirect their perception by pointing out what you saw that helped you conclude that it was less than desirable. “Oh, really? Did you happen to see John’s face when you discussed the product’s features? That’s right, he seemed to lose interest when you started talking about us rather than about him….”

Step 2b: Support and Build

When the coachee correctly assesses his performance — both strengths and areas for development — support the assessment by saying, “I agree.” Build from their conclusions to reinforce the accuracy of their self-assessment. In this way, you are reinforcing one of the most valuable skills anyone can acquire: the ability to assess and improve their own performance.


Step 3: Probe for Areas for Development

The third step is to ask the coachee what he would change if he could do it again. Obviously, if the coachee knows what could be improved and knows how to improve it, he won’t benefit from YOU telling him! And by mentally rehearsing what he will do differently, the likelihood of him actually carrying out the improvement is increased.

Most experts agree that two or three areas for development are enough for anyone to work on. Working on a laundry list of things to change is frustrating and futile. Focus on the areas of greatest need.

When identifying areas for development, the coachee may not have identified the one that you thought was most important. Again, you can redirect their perception by identifying what you saw that they might not have that allowed you to come to your conclusion. “I agree that the two areas that you identified would definitely had made the call go better. What do you think the effect of your product feature presentation was on the customer? Why? What might you do differently the next time…?”

Step 4: Summarize and Support

Even though you may have limited the coaching to a few strengths and a couple areas for development, you will want to briefly summarize the discussion, especially what the coachee will do differently the next time. This recap will cause the most important things to remain fresh in memory. You will also want to support the changes by saying something like, “I think those changes will make your next call go even better.”

Follow these four steps to help your employees and colleagues increase their performance. In the next issue we discuss how to give feedback within the coaching framework.

(This information comes from Coaching for Performance, a module in Entelechy’s High Performance Management program. Check out this module as well as our 40 other modules, training tools, and eGuides at www.unlockit.com.) Terence R. Traut is the president of Entelechy, Inc., a company that helps organizations unlock the potential of their people through customized training programs in the areas of sales, management, customer service, and training. Terence can be reached at 603-424-1237 or ttraut@unlockit.com

Coaching for Success

Personality Development, Free Course 2, Lesson 2

The 5 P’s Of Success
Kurt Mortensen

Throughout my years of study, I have found the ultra-prosperous all have common characteristics. I call these common characteristics the 5 P’s of Success because each attribute clearly adds to their success. Psyche

The first is psyche. That’s the mental aspect of the game. It’s a critical skill for all successful salespeople, but it works equally well in all fields. You will not be able to achieve your goals until you believe you can achieve your goals. All the best techniques and tools will not help you until you first believe in yourself. Unfortunately, most of the people we know tend to bring us down. When you tell them about your dreams and the things you want to accomplish in life, they can be very discouraging. Do you know people like that? When you have the right psyche, you know where you’re going and what you want to accomplish, and anything that people say is not going to matter. The right psyche involves knowing what you want and having a plan to get it. When your psyche is in its proper place, you will always follow your heart. Persistence

The second “P” is persistence. Persistence is the number one reason why people are successful in life. It’s also the driving force that determines why certain people are wealthy. Their success is not due to financial backing or education. They owe their achievements to persistence. There’s an old sales adage: “Some will; some won’t. So what? Who’s next?” It’s a numbers game. Most sales are closed after the fifth attempt. Never let obstacles in life take your eyes off your goals. Personal Development

The next “P” is personal development. All top producers have a personal development program. There is a direct relationship between your personal development program and your income. Personal success expert Brian Tracy says, “If you can get yourself to read thirty minutes a day, you’re going to double your income every year,” and I know from personal experience that this technique works! Most homes valued at over a quarter of a million dollars have a library. Studies consistently demonstrate that those who are learning and growing every day are more optimistic about life. They are more enthusiastic about where they’re going and what they hope to accomplish. Those who aren’t learning and growing every day become negative, pessimistic, and doubtful about themselves and their future. Turn your car into a university on wheels by listening to motivational tapes and CDs. When you’re at home, turn off the TV and read a book. There are two ways to learn in life: You can learn by trial and error, attempting to figure things out on your own, or you can learn from somebody else, who’s already been there and done it before. Somebody has already figured out everything you need to learn about life, and written a book about it or put it into a tape set. So invest in your future by investing in your personal development. Passion

Do you know the number one thing that will change someone’s mind? It’s the next “P”–passion. More than anything, passion will allow you to recruit the hearts and minds of your prospects. Do you have passion and heartfelt conviction for your product or service? We love people who are excited, animated, and full of passion. When you have passion for something you’re excited about, you have zeal and you want to share it with the world. You’re excited to convert as many people to your cause as possible. Passion alone can be effective in swaying opinion and getting people to support your product or service. Passion springs from a combination of belief, enthusiasm, and emotion. Find passion for your product and find joy in helping others enjoy it. Persuasion

The fifth and final “P” is persuasion. Spend a little time each day learning and mastering the world of persuasion and influence. The basic premise is to get what you want when you want it, and in the process to win friends and to help people love doing what you want them to do. There is a big difference between talking and persuading. Anyone can spit out a list of features and benefits, showing off their product or service and pushing their products on people. By using Maximum Influence you draw people to you, and thus attract more customers–and more sales. We want you to get customers to beg for your product or service and win customers for life.

About the Author: Kurt Mortensen’s trademark is Magnetic Persuasion; you should attract customers, like a magnet. Claim your success and learn what the ultra-prosperous know by going to www.PreWealth.com and get my free report “10 Mistakes that Cost You Thousands.”
The 5 P’s Of Success
Kurt Mortensen

Personality Development, Free Course 2, Lesson 1

Success Doesn’t Have To Be Rocket Science
Gordon Bryan

Success isn’t rocket science. Unless you want to be a rocket scientist. That’s an old joke, and not particularly funny, but I like to keep using it, because it’s a point which is a constant. That means it was true in the past, will be true in the future, and really importantly, is true now!

In order to achieve success, you will need to put in effort, but in all likelihood it will be the effort that someone else has put in before you, meaning you can copy and learn from their efforts, which makes life even easier for you!

What I’d like to do is to take that gag from above and use it to prove the point. In December 2006, the Discovery Space Shuttle went up on a mission to the International Space Station. On board Discovery was a Swedish astronaut, Christer Fuglesang, and it’s him I want to focus on.

He is the first astronaut from Sweden. No matter how many other people from his country go into space, he will always be the first. Is that his definition of success?

Er, no. As it happens, it’s a nice bonus, something to look back on with pride, but to him, the success was his own personal realisation of his goal to go into space.

Due to the tragedies in the Shuttle Progamme, he had to wait 14 years to get his flight. That’s a long time, it’s a lot of commitment, a big portion of his life.

So in December when he completed the mission, he could definitely call it a success.

Can you see the point I’m making? You don’t have to be the first from your country to do something in order to be a success, even though Fuglesang is. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to be a success, even though Fuglesang is.

What you do have to do though, is define your goal, be prepared to put in as much effort as required, and keep going. That’s something you can and *must* learn from our Swedish friend Christer, and then success will be yours!

Gordon Bryan is the author of ‘Transform Your Life in 21 Days!’ which has been described as ‘motivational magic.’ Read about it and grab his free 8 Step Goal Achievement Plan at: http://www.transformyourlifenow.com